Friday, July 18, 2014

Packing for China? Hope this helps

Posting tonight about PACKING FOR OUR ADOPTION TRIP...so sorry it's taking me forever to finish post about our actual trip to bring TJ home, I'll get back to that soon.
 But for now...
it's about packing...
Cuz I've got some very special people in my life that are traveling SOON to go bring their little ones HOME!!!
 Next I will post about what to expect while you are there!
Hope for some of you this is useful...

A sweet friend posted a super helpful list of things she packed and used in China 
when they traveled a month or so before us.
It was just what I needed to stay focused on packing light and with purpose! 

Soooo.... If you should find yourself preparing for an upcoming trip to 
bring your precious one home,
I hope this will be useful for you.
Because about a week before we traveled I had just bought our tickets and felt like THIS is what I needed to bring...

I thought for sure I would forget something, so PACK IT ALL!!
Oh my I needed help!
So glad I read what others had done before me!


Let's start with what we packed/brought with us....
(tried to link items that you might want to purchase)

and if you do purchase...
Will you consider purchasing through Amazon using this link?
Via that link, at least 5% of your purchase will go towards the amazing foster home that took such precious care of our girl until we could bring her home.

Donations, gifts and Nate's clothing took up his suitcase. 44 pounds plus! Done!
(In China flights, luggage can only be 44 lbs, his was closer to 50, but much of our donations and
gifts were going to be left in the first city)
So my suitcase was for me and TJ.
Tip: Roll your clothing. TJ's outfits were rolled together even clipped her matching bow to the top, then rubber banded the outfit together.  Bonus with traveling during the Summer, her clothing took up a little corner of the suitcase.

Here's what clothing I packed for 19 days:
My fav lightweight, dark(doesn't show dirt as much), elastic waist (comfort!), Capri pants, 3/4 sleeve jacket, printed (doesn't show dirt as much) sleeveless tunic top (wore this on the flight over). Don't think I ever wore the cotton knit jacket other than on flights. Glad I brought it though, flights can be chilly!  Ok... Packed 5 other s/s or sleeveless cotton tops with a couple mix n match tank tops to layer, black knee length skirt, one pair of khaki style coral shorts, light gray Capri pants, red tunic style casual dress paired with black Capri leggings for US Cons. appointment day, 2 sets of sleepwear.  3 pairs of shoes. Black flip flops, TOMS, and Keens.  Only wore the Keens once to walk up the Great Wall.  Probably could have just worn my TOMS that day.
That's it!!!!
We washed our undergarments, or clothes that got drenched in sweat in our room with a sample size bottle of laundry detergent that I found in the $ section at Target.
The first two hotels had laundry drying lines in the bathrooms.  We brought wooden clothespins. This came in handy for wet swimsuits too.

The GZ hotel did not have the line, but we brought string and these THESE 3M five pound wall hooks.  That bathroom has marble walls, so no risk of damage.
I'm sure the laundry service is lovely, we just choose to do our own when it was convenient for us.

What I packed for TJ: 
8 total outfits.  2 sets of pjs. (warm, long sleeved pjs), 3 pairs of shoes (crocs, sandals, robeez style leather crib shoes). Dresses are easy! Leggings in two colors to mix n match. 2 one pc bubble outfits, 2 shorts and T-shirt outfits, red, white and blue outfit for her special day, swimsuit, gap jacket for flights. We purchased a cotton, floral print, traditional style dress at a shop right next to our hotel in GZ, she wore it for the 'couch picture' with all the precious ones in our group. I tried to stick with prints, doesn't show messes as much :) Lightweight cotton dries fast too.
SHOES are difficult, who really knows what size they wear??

BTW...she is 21 pounds, 30 inches tall
She wears 12-18 months and a size 5 shoe

 Crocs are forgiving, comfortable and easy for toddlers to put on themselves (which they love to do)
Sandals like these are also forgiving and they double for entertainment, she messed with the buckles for years.
Robeez style leather crib shoes are EASY.  Couple reasons I brought these.  I'm not a fan of hotel room carpet floors.  Are they really cleaned??? I felt better when she wore these in our room. 
I also had her wear them on the plane.
They are squirmy little ones! Having hard soled shoes dig into your legs while they crawl all over your lap, DOES NOT FEEL GOOD!

Clip bows are easy, and CUTE! Right now jane.com has them for less than $2 and tons of color
options! A sweet friend owns this super cute etsy shop where I purchased the "Made In China" and "Worth The Wait" bows

 I brought the smallest colored Colored ouchless hairbands I could find.  Most
girlies hair can be on the wispy side and big bands would have to go around their little ponytails 20x!

I packed some small toiletries for all of us, and we could of packed less. Everything you need is there!!! Hair products, razors (wayyyy cheaper there), bath wash, baby items, diapers, wipes, sippy cups...all of it so easy to find at stores close by. In ZZ the Wal-Mart has it all!
In Beijing, a everything-you-need grocery store is on the same street as our hotel.

On to the fun stuff...

Toys we brought for TJ:
We brought a super cute lion backpack for her things (Skip Hop brand has about 20 animals to choose from, super cute!)

Tip for Toys: we tried to keep it simple.  Their little brains are going through ALOT! Too many books and toys are completely overwhelming.
We brought nothing electronic for her. Did I mention we kept it simple? ;)

I'm pretty sure these  stacking cups were her fav toy that we brought
Best $2.99 I've ever spent!!
She played and played with them.  In the bath, out of the bath and even on the airplane...with nothing in them! Simple people, simple. 
 
We even used the boiled water to clean one of the cups and used it for a noodles bowl in our room..
 
 
We also brought a spoon and fork set and kept them in a ziplock, always had them in my backpack with this bib ( and we just brought two. Super easy to clean and shove in the backpack)
 
Local restaurants do not have kid friendly utensils. Honestly, I wish I would have brought a set for me! Nate became a pro with chopsticks out of necessity.  I never could get the hang of it. Lost a couple pounds.  Back in the room, I would used the boiling water in the sink with a drop of lemon oil to clean the spoon and fork for the next meal. 
Yep.  I brought my essential oils in this travel case.
 
We brought 3 books.
This My First Words board book was her FAV! She looked at it over and over.
It was when she was most verbal with us!  And it was a bridge to learning a new language!
It's chunky, but sooooo worth the bulk.  It fit into her backpack, no prob
 The Indestructible Books are GREAT!  They weigh nothing and nothing can be done to them!
We brought two of them and had a couple more waiting for her at home.
I even rolled one up and placed in the zipper pocket of my Ergo carrier for emergency entertainment!
We just brought a couple animal ones, we had send a few in her care package, so we hoped she was familiar with them.  Again, lightweight and easy to throw in a pocket!

 

 
This little plastic horn was a toy she had in her hand on Gotcha Day.  She loved it! She could make it work better than I could! It may have been a gift from her nanny. Very sweet of her.

 
 
So here she is after being with us for just a couple hours.
Already acting like a goof!
We brought a toddler travel pillow that I found at TJ Maxx.
I had it laying in her bed. 
She picked it up and did this.

It did come in handy on the LONG plane ride home.  We tucked it into the top handle of her backpack as you can see in the pic of her wearing the backpack above.

Here is the Asian baby doll that we brought for her. It's actually quite difficult to find an Asian baby doll.  Go ahead. Try to find one!
This one is PERFECT. It's soft, just the perfect size for little toddler arms, and she smells like vanilla. She picked up her baby and started playing and humming "row, row, row your boat".
I think we both about cried. I still get teary thinking of that moment.
  We began singing it with her.
She looked up at us with a look I will never forget.
It was as if she said "you know this"
 
In her crib I had her blanket, bunny, doll and taggie blanket. 
It was so sweet seeing her use her taggie blanket with her baby, wrapping her up, laying her down for bed and covering her with it.
 
She has a very special floppy bunny that waited for her at home. Given to her by an amazing family that has been sponsoring her while she was in care. I was nervous about brining it with us, it's that special!!
So, I found this sweet little thing at the mall near our Beijing hotel.
(cute stuffed animals at a kiosk down from the Pizza Hut)
It was the only toy we brought to Gotcha Day.
Gotcha Day tip: Remember their precious brains? SO MUCH going on. There is no need for many toys and options. One is perfect. We brought a snack in this snack cup and drink too. That's it. 
 
There are many choices when it comes to baby/toddler carriers.
I brought two.
The Ergo Carrier which I found a teal one (fav color) gently used on Ebay for half the price!!
I also made one like like this one (the pattern if you want to make one yourself)
Or you can purchase one like this.
TJ weighed 21 pounds, to give you an idea of size.  I never had a sore back! This thing is awesome!
And she really loved it! One day we were walking from our room to the pool and she went flying back into the room.  Like she forgot something.
She went and found the Ergo and brought it to me. Seriously she loved it!
It was BLAZING hot, but we carried her because she was secure in my arms.  Sure, an umbrella stroller was used a few times, but this was so much better for her.
 
This was the one that I made.  It's kinda like an infinity scarf, just a big circle of reversible fabric.
Used it a few times too, super easy.  Downside was she wasn't as secure in it as she was in the Ergo.  And its not hands free.
 
She came to us on Gotcha with this Nuby sippy cup. 
I think these cups are great! No straw to clean! Easy to clean in the sink with the boiled water and a drop of lemon oil.  I think she likes the soft top.  When we got home we moved her to one of these.
 
Oops! I got side-tracked. Who me???
back to the toys....
STICKERS!!!!
Probably her #2 fav thing to play with!
Kept her entertained for years!
We found Little Kitty ones at the $ store. 
I could throw a sheet in the zip pocket of the Ergo, she loved this!
Came in handy at restaurants waiting for our food, riding in the bus, on the airplane etc. 
 
We brought a small inflatable pool ball, again found at the $ store.
We did find some at the Walmart in ZZ if you wanted to wait.
They have cheap stickers there too.
But don't expect to find an Asian baby doll there!
Nope.  Blonde haired, blue eyed baby dolls only. So weird!
Also found swim caps there for a couple bucks.
Gotta have swim caps at the Beijing & ZZ hotel.
GZ pool is outside, didn't need the caps there.
 
Well that's about it!
I hope you find this helpful. 
I'll post a Part 2...
more on what to expect, do and tips while you are enjoying the trip of a lifetime.
Coming soon!
 
 
~ Amber
 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Hot Day at the Park

Wowza!! It was a hot one today, over 100 degrees! 
Most the the day we spent inside,
But we needed a little change of scenery.
The park just a couple minutes down the block,
Is mostly tree covered. So we walked over with Jonathan, Julie & Silas. 

Once she saw Silas freed from his stroller, she wanted out of the Ergo carrier too.
We were both sweating fierce, so we needed some time to air out. 
I'm happy that she does super great while I'm wearing her. 
She lays her head on my chest, snuggles.  
She's very peaceful in it.


Nate wanted me to make sure you all knew that he was the main photographer today ;)
The park is beautiful! 
Local "interesting" music being performed live through out the park. 
Since it was during a working day,
Much of the people in the park were older folks.
My goodness they are precious. 
We could learn so much from them.  
They are not rushed.
They very much enjoyed each other's company
They stayed close to the music of their ancestors. 
Well at least that was my guess. 
I've never heard a grown man 'sing' like I heard today.
But guessed who loved it?

This girl.

We ventured on after Nate was non-verbally scolded for taking a video of the 'concert'
We came upon a children's carnival. 
Tessa was fascinated! She kept pointing at it, so we checked it out. 


She and Silas both were fascinated by this ride.  
Again, Nate wants you all to know that HE took this stinkn' cute pic of the two of them :)

Look at these rosey cheeks! 
Did I mention it was flippn'n hot today?


She really seemed interested in trying out the rides. 
This one was in a cage, there were 3 large cartoon fish "blowing bubbles" (ping pong balls)
Each little car had a net on a pole so you could catch the balls flying up out of the fish. 
She loved it! She totally understood what she needed to do with the net!

We moved back over to the cars ride that caught her & Silas' attention initially.
He was riding it with Julie!
So fun!!!! 

We thought it would be appropriate that she ride the cars ride with Baba since I got to take her on the first ride. 
Ha!!

"Mama!!!!!!!!!"
And I don't think we got our $2.50 worth on that ride.  
We don't see many tears, but if Baba is making her be away from Mama...there will be tears. 
We finished the day with a great nap, a meeting with our group where we got some documents. 
Held back tears as I was handed her "finding add"
It showed the youngest pic of her that I've seen. 
On a page full of other "foundlings"
We learned a bit more about this piece of her history. 
We are thankful her Heavenly Father has written the whole thing, and He knows it all!
His story of Tessa Joy is exactly how it should be.
Humbled that He chose our family for her!



Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Tessa Joy's Gotcha Day!!!

It's hard to type out words that describe this day.
Wow. 
Even meeting up with all the other families in our group in the hotel lobby...
The Babas were anxious, pacing, checking their backpacks I'm sure for the 5th time.
Camera, check
Paperwork, check,
Gifts, check,
Snacks, check, 
Tissues!!!! Yep! Check!
The Mamas were emotional, clearly holding back tears...today is THE DAY! 
For one of our families it was their FIRST baby!!! I loved seeing how excited they were! 

Sitting on our bus, the seats were full. 
Soon there will be full LAPS! Full HEARTS!
Our ride there was harder than I thought.
Tears flooded my eyes.
I couldn't keep them back.
Nate said "oh babe, you're crying."
Yep.   Maybe if I got it all out now, I wouldn't scare Tessa Joy with my wailing! 

It was about 20 minutes of heavy emotions. Our guide talked to us all the way there, very sweet words about this day. 
Honestly, all I heard was Charlie Brown's teacher.  

We all knew that we would take pics for each other, we had cameras hung around our necks and hanging out our pockets! 

We walked up some outdoor steps up to a large government building, into a small room.
I say small because between all 12 of our families, the officials, guides, orphanage directors, and several other adopting families from other agencies, well we quickly filled every bit of that room. 
There was a very small, contained play area for the children too.

We all were wondering if any of our children might have arrived already. 

As we walked in, I heard my friend Julie say "it's him! He is here!"
We all went into action! 
My heart was fluttering.
My hand was shaking, trying to get pictures for them. 
He was scared.
They did amazing with him!
All the other families stood back and let some of our emotions spill out...it would be our turn SOON!
We were taking notes! 
I was praying for precious, broken-hearted Silas. 
I was praying for Julie, for Jonathan.  God gave them just what he needed. 
Patience. Love. 

A handful of us mamas waited right by the double glass doors to the outside. 
Cars should have NOT driven by that day if they didn't have our babies inside!!!
Too many false alarms! 

Days might have gone by... Or minutes.  
Other precious babies were rushed in.

Crying and the sounds of camera shutters going off like celebrities were walking the red carpet. 
This was a million times better than any celebrity sighting. 

THIS was something EVERYONE should witness first hand!
There is NOTHING like this!!!
One less orphan after another!!!!!
Close your eyes and see it! 

The redemptions taking place!
Because each one HAS VALUE! 
Today marks the first day of their new life of HOPE! 

I was soooo thankful for the time to stand back and soak this all in! 
True Beauty. 
But then there was this van....
Nate was by the door....
"It's her!!! She's in there! I see her!"
I rushed over and saw her precious nanny carrying our Tessa Joy.
Our daughter. 

She came from an orphanage where 3 other little ones were too.
The door was swarmed with love.
I couldn't get to her fast enough!

Then she was in my arms..




And then she saw her Baba!!!!












Her precious nanny gave her to me...
She loves Tessa Joy so much

You can see her broken heart as she knows she has to let her sweet baby girl go.
She cared for Tessa when she was a baby with a broken heart in the hospital.
She rocked, fed, changed, sang to her tirelessly while she was in her loving foster care center.
We shed tears together as she said her goodbyes.

 Tessa's attention was diverted by the play area....
But the laughter still couldn't hide the tears...
She was broken...
The healing has now begun!!!

Baba helps with the giggles...
But then we had to leave.
She cried and cried, all the way to the bus,
Most of the way to the hotel,
She was covered in sweat and tears. 
My heart overflowed with pain for her .
But...

We choose JOY.
And right now we had to help her choose JOY.

 Back at our room, she opened up to us, lots of smiles.
 She claimed right into her crib, her toys were there waiting.
She grabbed her baby and did something very familiar to her...Row, row, row your boat! She knows she needs a partner for this song, her baby fit the role.
 We knew she liked baths...and she sure did need one!
She played and played.
Let the healing begin precious one!!!!


Sunday, May 25, 2014

Beijing to ZZ

More about the things we experienced in Beijing
(thanks to the random internet Wifi, this is Part 2)
The wall was not for the faint at heart. 



Loved seeing all the Forever in Love locks going up. 


Ok, so let me get this straight.  I can not speak cellphone, but speaking Chinese or English is ok? Oh good!! The lost in translation signs never get old
A really good one is one we passed a couple times in town and I could never get my phone or camera out in time.  It was above a storefront. It reads "God Help the Streaking"


If you could hear the sounds, it's huffing, heavy breathing, moaning and best of all, cheers from strangers "you can do it" 
It was packed with people young and old from all over the world. 


So when 4 people from Ohio are at a famous location, one MUST do O-H-I-O. 


Ok...check that off my list.  Going back down might have been just a difficult! 


We left the Great Wall and stopped for lunch. It was at a cloisonné factory. What amazing work!!
Each later of painted on enamel on to the brass bots, vases, plates. 

You have paint over it,them fire it at least 6-7 times. 
Still a cute little vase was 5% off and still over $100! Yikes!

We take over where ever we go! Huge group! We ate lunch there, soooo yummy!!


This guy was nuts! This is all part of the local acrobats team, really with thus extra trip. 

She's balancing umbrellas on her feet!

This guy would roll and still have the girls balanced.  Really crazy!!!

All on One bicycle!!!

The cage of death!! By the end there were 8 motor motor cycles!!!!

Just plain crazy!! 

Such a beautiful performance! I'm so glad we went! 
Well on to ZZ (Tessa's birth city).
It's huge!!! The hotel is beautiful.  
Tomorrow is HER day!!!!
Can't wait to share pics of us with her!!!!😍